Your Safe Place

What do you do when it seems like there’s nothing you can do to fix a situation? Or how do you feel when everything you’ve tried to reach your goals hasn’t worked and it seems like you’re out of options? Do you buckle down and work harder? Do you give up? When you don’t see progress and can’t seem to muster up any more energy to “push through” the best thing you can do is find “your safe place”.

To some this is going for a run or working out, for others it may be reading or journaling. Whatever it is, it’s the place you go (in your head) or thing you do (to get out of your head) when life has been kicking you around too much for any given day, month or year. It’s the place you know you can be yourself and everything is fine. Where nothing can touch you and you can detach for a little even. Where all the noise of the world fades away for just a little bit.

This place is special, you know it as much as it knows you and it never seems to judge you or criticize you. It may not be a place filled with all your hopes and dreams, but it is your safe place, a place that feels like home in this foreign world.

Everyone has and everyone needs a safe space, they can just look wildly different, like either diving into a project or work, or laying in bed scrolling social media. It doesn’t matter what it is, what is important is that it gives you reprieve from the constant mental chatter and drama of life.

This safe place is what you’ve probably relied on in difficult times to weather the lows of life. It has been a friend when you just couldn’t seem to keep doing what you’ve been doing, and like a friend… who we hang out with can tell us a lot about ourselves. After all our safe place is usually one of, if not the only place we can feel comfortable with ourselves. So, what makes you want to hang out with you? Is it the freedom to peer into your feelings? Is it the freedom to not be productive? Or maybe you just like taking baths for some reason… The thing you do or place you go is often indicative in some way of what you value and how you want to feel.

No matter what you do or how you access your safe space it has proven to be reliable and inviting even. It never turns you away and you always receive relief when you go.

This place is special and it’s safe and you must be the one to protect it and you will, because it’s your lifeline in this chaotic world and you need it.

So I challenge you, the reader here, to figure out what your safe spaces are, the things you wouldn’t let anyone take away. The things you need when nothing else is going right, and ask yourself why these things or actions bring you to that place of contentment. They may have a story to tell.